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Our Self-Written Obituaries – Binduu Chopra, Faridabad

The 44th death.

[Text by Binduu Chopra; photo by Aryan Adityo]

Binduu was a dot. She was also a drop of water; also a full circle. Actually, she just wished to be a drop of love.

Eldest of the three children of Saroj and Rajinder, Ms Chopra loved candles, plants, shells, chunky silver rings, wind chimes, and nail paints. An author of three books and a few anthologies, she kept herself busy with her writings, her “heart beats”.

Ms Chopra dreamed of a life in a slow paced town where she would sit among the thick trees and gaze at the stars at night — but she was too scared of the dark, too fearful of the sounds of leaves at night. She yearned to hold the hand of a blind man one day and help him cross the road – but she never chanced upon a blind person while crossing the roads.

In the intensive care unit, Ms Chopra asked her doctors if the IV fluid in her drip could be replaced with the spicy tamarind water that is made by her favroite gol gappa walla.

Passing away at the beautiful age of 60, she leaves behind a husband, and a son and his small family. Her friends remember her home as being neat, organized, and cozy.

Our Self-Written Obituaries invites people to write their obituary in 200 words. The idea is to share with the world how you will like to be remembered after you are gone. (May you live a long life, of course!) Please mail me your self-obit at

12 thoughts on “Our Self-Written Obituaries – Binduu Chopra, Faridabad

  1. I know you are a brilliant home-maker! You are not only a great author, but a well-disciplined wife to your husband, a caring mom to your son, and a lovable mom-in-law to your son’s wife! I appreciate the way you wrote these lines. May God bless you with a healthy and long life!

  2. It is not that one can really get to write their own obit. Then, when one gets an opportunity, one tries to balance it with their own successes and failures. Bindu, you have tried a different approach: you relived some of your childhood moments, and basked in your most successful moments. I loved that moments that you sat at your Faridabad home between those trees. Nice to know that you just need to ‘help one blind person cross the road”, and a night with me in an old and unused burial ground on ‘amavasi’ and stop being afraid of the dark, and your life will be complete, and without unfulfilled wishes. 🙂

  3. How beautifully expressed Bindu! However, having said that, I can only visualize you dying while laughing your heart out and certainly not lying in the Intensive Care Unit of a hospital. Or how about dying a peaceful death, with a peaceful grin on your face sitting under the shadow of your favourite trees? Your obituary shows that you have lovingly nurtured that beautiful child in you till death. Never let it die.

    1. Hi Deepanjana..

      Thank you for this lovely note.. Never will I let the child in me die.. It shall continue to live even after I am gone..Its this that will keep me alive amongst my friends!.. Having said that I shall be dieing young- as late as possible 😛

      Binduu <3

  4. Bindu…
    u r the best… may u live a long… happy n healthy life…
    and I m also going to do this… on my birthday as I think its the appropirate day.. coz when we start to breathe.. comes out from our mother’s womb.. we start losing a little bit of life every moment… but still its the best journey.. happy day… and yes m going to steal some words of urs.. as we r namesakes n I tjought these lines for my autobiography long time back … but let it be for this now….

    1. Happy Birthday Bindu!..

      Thank you for taking out your time to leave me a note on a busy day. Hugs!..
      You must aspire, in your lifetime, to transform, to change from the ordinary to become a beacon. An ordinary person is like a lamp, a mundane object, but when touched with divinity, it transforms, it merges with the all-powerful light of the supreme and becomes a beacon to light up the entire world. ( I quote this from my recent book ‘And Let There Be Light’)..
      Grab each day as an opportunity Bindu and enjoy this beautiful journey called LIFE.

      Lots of loves <3

  5. A life summed up in the right words..the simple things in life are the ones that matter most to us and your obituary reflects just that.

  6. Dearest you have long way to go…you have so much to give to your family and all your friends. just be happy and ever giggler you are…i would not write your obituary but wish you have long and healthy life with love and laughter.

    1. My Dear Indira,
      None of us are here forever.. But its beautiful to accept that the departure is only for the renewal of our soul..
      Let me write the lyrics of a lovely song here for you: Mein laut ke aaongi…yeh matt bhool jana tum..mujhe tum yaad rakhna aur yaad aana tum..
      Thank you for all your good wishes.
      Much loves

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